Help With Relationship Problems Caused By Watching Porn

Besides showing guys how to quit porn for good, my other major focus is helping men and women to repair and rebuild relationships that are being destroyed by porn.

Here are the most common situations and problems I help people to solve:

1. Your wife is suffering because of your porn use
Your wife feels hurt, upset, inadequate, insecure, freaked out, angry, resentful, scared or worthless as a result of your porn use. You don’t like seeing her in pain like this and it eats at your conscience, and you want to help her feel better (so you can stop feeling guilty and forgive yourself as well).

2. Your wife has threatened to leave you
Your wife has threatened to leave you if you don’t stop watching porn – or if you don’t at least get help for your porn addiction. Or your wife has already left you and you want to get her back and make a fresh start rebuilding your relationship.

3. Your wife caught you watching porn
Your wife found out about your porn use the hard way – either she caught you watching it, or found porn on your phone, or someone else told her about it instead of you telling her yourself.

4. Your wife doesn’t trust you any more
Your wife has become suspicious and hyper vigilant (or even paranoid), and now you can’t even live your normal life without her always being freaked out that you’ll relapse. Or you just have no credibility with your wife any more and she always thinks you’re lying to her (even when you’re not).

5. Your wife can’t forgive you
Your wife has gone through so much pain and suffering because of your porn use that now she can’t forgive you – and she keeps bringing it up intead of putting things in the past and moving on.

6. Your intimacy and sex with your wife is suffering
You have erectile dysfunction or delayed ejaculation because of your porn use, or you can’t orgasm at all during sex. This is causing relationship problems because you’re embarrassed or ashamed, or because you don’t connect when you’re being intimate, or because your wife thinks she isn’t attractive or sexy enough.

7. Your wife won’t have sex with you any more
You want to have sex with your wife, but she doesn’t want to have sex with you. As a result, you keep feeling driven to watch porn for the sexual release you need – and then this causes even more issues in your relationship.

8. Porn is coming between you and your wife
You spend so much time watching porn that it’s coming between you and your wife. You’ve lost interest in spending time with her (or your kids) or having sex with her, and she’s not getting the attention and intimacy she needs.

9. Your wife is trying to control you or you’re just arguing a lot
Your wife is always busting your balls about watching porn, nagging you (or even pleading with you) to stop, or trying to control you. Or you and your wife are arguing or even fighting over your porn use, and things are often tense between you.

10. Your wife sees your porn use as cheating
Your wife sees your porn use cheating and feels betrayed when you watch it. Or she believes your porn use is a sign that you don’t love her, or that you’re not interested in her any more, or that there are some other problems in your relationship (even if that’s not how it is).

11. Your wife doesn’t understand you
Your wife doesn’t understand you or your situation – what it’s like to have porn addiction, why you watch porn when you could have sex with her instead, what’s involved in quitting porn, and what support you need from her to succeed.

12. Your wife thinks you have your porn addiction under control when you don’t
You promised your wife that you’d quit porn porn, and she thinks you have. But you keep relapsing and you hate feeling like you’re letting her down. Now you’ve relapsed so many times that you’re too ashamed to even tell her in case she loses all trust or respect for you.

13. Your wife doesn’t know about your porn addiction
You know you should tell your wife about your porn addiction, but you’re ashamed and embarrassed, and you’re worried that she’ll freak out, judge you, or leave you altogether). Meanwhile, you hate sneaking around watching porn behind her back and want to get the weight off your shoulders, but you don’t know how to tell her.

If you’re facing any of these problems (or if you’re worried that they’ll come up in future and you want to avoid losing your wife and your family), I can help you.

How it All Unfolded

Not long after I put up the Porn Free Power site in 2013, I started getting emails from people asking for help with problems porn was causing in their relationship.

This included men facing the situations above, as well as women who were devastated by their husbands’ porn use and needed help with coping (and with helping him to quit porn).

My original plan for Porn Free Power had been to focus specifically on showing people how to quit porn, but I started to realise that, for many people, relationship problems caused by porn addiction were just as painful as the porn addiction itself.

As it happens, I’ve been studying relationships and communication since 2005, and relationship coaching has now become the other area I focus on outside of all my work with Porn Free Power.

So when people began contacting me because porn addiction was destroying their relationships, I started applying all my knowledge and insights to help them turn things around.

I’ve now been helping people with porn addiction for 6 years, and I regularly work with both men and women who specifically need to solve relationship problems caused by porn use.

Help and Support that Works Where Standard Relationship and Marriage Counselling Doesn’t

Some of the people and couples I work with have already been to marriage counsellors and found that this didn’t help at all with their situation

I know exactly why that is.

While traditional marriage counsellors are well-meaning, unfortunately they don’t understand porn addiction, and the specific ways it affects both the relationship as a whole, and the individual people themselves.

To really turn your marriage around and make it better than ever, you need a specialist in both relationships and porn addiction, who understands the specific problems you’re facing.

That’s where I can provide the unique solutions you need.

I’ve been addicted to porn myself, I know exactly how to overcome it, and after working in this area for years, I also understand the problems porn addiction causes in relationships and how to solve them.

(And just for context, I’m very happily married myself and we now have a beautiful baby daughter.

I told my wife about my porn addiction not long after we started dating, and she was there in the final stages of me overcoming it.)

So I’ve not only helped dozens of other people with their own relationship issues caused by porn, but I have my own direct experience in how to create a healthy, loving relationship – and I can show you how to do it too.

“I was so close to losing my wife and family but now we are closer than we had ever hoped to be.” – Anthony, South Africa

Benefits and Results I Can Deliver

All of my help and coaching is delivered online via Skype, WhatsApp or Viber.

That means you can get help with your relationship from anywhere in the world.

I’m available to chat with either you or your wife individually, or both of you together to provide the exact help and solutions each of you need.

Benefits and Results When I Help You

Of course, I can show you exactly how to quit porn in a way that lasts – so you stay happily porn free and have no desire to use porn ever again.

This one thing will have a huge positive effect on your relationship all by itself.

But besides that, here are many other ways I can help you to solve your problems and make your relationship better (both while you’re still quitting porn and beyond).

To start with, I can show you exactly what to do and say in common contentious situations, including:

  • Your wife has caught you using porn (especially if this is the last straw for her).
  • You’ve relapsed to porn and you need to be honest and tell your wife about it.
  • Your wife won’t give you sex any more and you’re feeling frustrated and neglected.
  • Your wife is about to leave you (or she’s already left) and you need another chance to quit porn so you can work together to heal your relationship.
  • Your wife doesn’t know about your porn addiction and you want to tell her in a way where you don’t feel ashamed or judged, and she ends up understanding and supporting you.

In any discussions you have with your wife, I can help you with any part of the process, including:

  • Preparing for the discussion beforehand, so you say all the right things every step of the way and avoid saying or doing anything that might screw things up.
  • Guiding you through the discussion itself (see below).
  • Doing the right things after the discussion, so you can keep everything moving forward and your relationship keeps getting better and better.

In the process of working together, I can also show you:

  • How to avoid and navigate arguments or fights when you communicate with your wife, so your interactions are friendly and constructive rather than turning into shouting matches.
  • How to regain your wife’s trust so she believes what you’re saying without constantly being suspicious, checking up on you or trying to control you.
  • How to gain your wife’s understanding about your porn addiction, as well as her full commitment to helping you to quit porn successfully, so you feel totally accepted and supported along the way.
  • How to create an amazing sex life that porn can’t compete with – where you get boners and orgasms without struggling, where both can’t wait to get intimate, and where the sex massively enhances your relationship.
  • How to repair your relationship and rebuild it into a fun and exciting masterpiece that lights you both up – where your wife gets the understanding and attention she needs, and where you get the appreciation, admiration and freedom you’re longing for.

“We are actually bonding in a way that we have never before. We’ve both loved and lived more in these last 2 months than we have in our 15 years together all thanks to you my dear friend.

The positive difference your care and concern has made in our family is remarkable and we are so grateful to you for turning our lives and our marriage around. You are an answer to years of prayers and we are eternally greatful.” – AC

Benefits and Results When I Help Your Wife

When I chat with your wife, I can provide an independent perspective on everything, which is critical if she no longer trusts you or believes what you’re saying.

I’ve worked with many women before who have found our sessions to be critical in restoring their hope and their relationship with their husband.

With that in mind, here are some of the ways I can help when I speak with your wife:

  • I can give her the understanding and reassurance she needs to feel better, keep her faith in you and your relationship, and to believe that you’ll succeed in quitting porn.
  • I can share techniques, tips and insights that will help her cope with the situation, so she can deal with any negative feelings and she is in the right mental and emotional state to support you.
  • I can help her to understand you better, as well as what it’s like to have porn addiction – so she knows it’s not about her and she is aware of what’s involved during the recovery process.
  • I can show your wife the role she needs to play and what she needs to do to from her side support you in your porn addiction recovery (and to help make your relationship better).
  • I can help her to put any porn relapses you might have in the right context, so everything is easier on both of you if a relapse should happen.

“Im so grateful to you jay as the last few days you have kept me sane and got me through this heartbreaking time. Thank you for your support. You will never know just how much you helped me.” – Carol K, UK

Benefits and Results When I Help You and Your Wife Together

Here’s what I can provide when I work with both you and your wife together:

  • If communication is poor or you and your wife aren’t talking at all any more, I can be an objective guide who you both trust to help get you communicating effectively and connecting genuinely again.
  • I can mediate and guide you through any discussions to help keep them on track, calm things down and avoid them turning into arguments if needed, and make sure you both get the best outcome every time.
  • I can give you valuable strategies and tips on how to leverage the power of your relationship to help you succeed with quitting porn even faster.
  • I can help you create personalised, week by week plans on what each of you need to do to keep building momentum so your relationship gets stronger and stronger over time (as well as giving you guidance as you go).

“Our relationship is moving ahead in leaps and bounds now that we are building back the trust and respect that was lost through his porn use. I just wanted to say thank Jay you from the bottom of my heart. I love this Man of mine and I really feel that we are going to be ok.” – Jessica, Sydney

Prices and Packages

Prices: Individual Sessions
45 minutes:$75
60 minutes:$85
90 minutes:$110                           

All prices are in USD.

You can pay easily, securely and discreetly by Visa, MasterCard or American Express credit or debit cards, with no account needed.

Packages
4 sessions:5% off prices above
8 sessions:7.5% off prices above
12 sessions:10% off prices above    

Packages are paid upfront and can then be used over whatever time period you like (with no expiry).

There is no extra charge for working with both you and your wife together in the same session.

Don’t let the low prices fool you into thinking this is just a cheap service.

If you’re familiar with the Porn Free Power subscriber resources and the content on my website, you know that I’m obsessed with high quality and I don’t ever settle for second best.

My one on one help and coaching is no different, and you can always expect the very best experience and results when we work together.

I know you’re both counting on me and I won’t let you down.

“Porn Free Power has potentially saved my marriage. There is still a long way to go and it will not be an easy road to travel but a tleast i am now on the road. Thanks Jay.” – Paul S, UK

Get the Relationship Help You Need Now

Unfortunately, if your relationship is rocky and your wife is suffering because of your porn use, she may not wait around forever for you to quit and for things to get better.

The sad reality is that women leave their husbands and boyfriends over porn all the time – and when it happens, it’s devastating for them.

And when I speak with women who are desperate because their husbands and boyfriends are addicted to porn, the #1 thing they all want is for him to get help.

Your marriage is so important to your life, and you definitely don’t want to lose your wife (and maybe your kids too) just because you didn’t take the right actions.

So the time to quit porn and turn your relationship around is right now.

If you need help to make it happen, I’m always available to guide and support you however you need it.

There’s no better way to show your wife that you’re serious about quitting porn and making your relationship better than to get help from someone who knows exactly what they’re talking about.

Just contact me now to arrange to chat and we can get started.

How to Get Help to Save Your Marriage and Solve Relationship Problems Caused by Porn

Just enter your name, email and a short message below and hit the “Get Help Now” button.

I’ll be in touch with you really soon to find out exactly what you need and arrange help and solutions that work for you (and your wife).

Talk soon

Jay :)

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Testimonials
"Dear Jay

Thank you for your loving, supportive and non judgmental guidance through this hard time. Your regular exercises are a great help in breaking the bonds of this addiction and your weekly check ups are a reminder that I'm not alone in this battle.

After almost 20 years of fighting this addiction on my own, you have given me the tools to break it's chains. I was so close to losing my wife and family but now we are closer than we had ever hoped to be.

All that ugly guilt and shame has been washed away and in its place a sense of humility, forgiveness and lots of love.

I pray for God's continued strength for you as you continue in your mission.

Thank you"
Anthony
South Africa


"Porn Free Power has potentially saved my marriage. There is still a long way to go and it will not be an easy road to travel but a tleast i am now on the road. Thanks Jay."
Paul S, UK


"This has been one of the hardest things I've ever tried to overcome. Me and my wife have been working on our issues, she has forgiven me but I know she has a hard time trusting me. I have not looked at porn in several weeks, i'm proud of myself and would like to thank you for your advice it's helped alot."
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"Hi Jay,

Thx for all your help. I have found that 'Inner Anchor','Inner Source of Power' that you indicated would be essential to victory over porn.This has given me a porn-free identity,giving NO PLACE to porn in my life at all.I am continually aware that I may NEVER become complacent.

I thought I want to let you know,but have waited a considerable time so as to absolutely, resolutely sure that porn is totally out of my life and this email confirms it for me!!!"
CL, UK


"Hi Jay

It is actually my husband on whose behalf I have subscribed. We have been together for 15 years and its only about 4 years now when I first discovered the porn addiction. Porn is almost a 20 year battle for him and he has made countless attempts to stop over the years but has never succeeded.

We are both committed to following your prescription to the letter the science and the reasoning behind every action you specify makes it easy to comply with.

I can see honestly for the first time that he is truly on his way to recovery. You have motivated and shown him a plan and a positive way foward, nothing else has managed to restore hope like this. My husband's getting stronger and we are getting closer every day all thanks to your program.

He says to tell you this is the longest he has gone in 20 years without even a single craving an its almost 2 months now.

Your practical, holistic approach coupled with your awesome energy is nothing short of brilliant. We are actually bonding in a way that we have never before. We've both loved and lived more in these last 2 months than we have in our 15 years together all thanks to you my dear friend. You are an answer to years of prayers and we are eternally greatful.

We are thrilled that you have taken the time to check in on us, you really are an awesome human being, the positive difference your care and concern has made in our family is remarkable and we are so grateful to you for turning our lives and our marriage around.

We really appreciate your incredible committment to us and our situation. Your dedication is truly an inspiration to us in itself.

Yours in gratitude"
A.C.
Compiled with permission from various emails


"hey man I am quitting porn for good,it's like something from the inside change overnight I no longer have the desire to watch it any more. what you told me is that changes is needed from the inside and it happened thank you man

Thank you for the time you gave me, I appreciate what you did for me. keep on helping people who suffer from porn. you are my hero."
RB


"Hey man porn free power helped me to realise that porn addiction start with you. Before you start saying you quit it should be for real, I said many times that I need to quit but I failed but after meeting jay I was able to know a way out. Jay always spend time giving us advice and also supporting us. I am proud to say I can see the light and I have quit porn."
Mathew S


"Hey Jay-

I've had set backs but I'm actually on day ? Without porn, meaning long enough I can't remember. Praying has been a huge alternate activity and helps immensely but your program is fantastic. Most of your tips are, as my kids would say, "spot on". Without your help I wouldn’t have made the progress.

The biggest advice you gave that helped me was "boredom". Porn watching used to pass the time I had free. Now, I try to stay busy, mostly get out of the house so the opportunity to be alone is not there.

I have been stronger in my faith but your program got me on the right track and I thank you immensely."
Geoff


"For me, porn was a web of deceit I was ensnared in. I couldn't get free. As I've started doing the Action Series Porn Free Power offers, the different threads that had attached to my life long ago have begun to fall away. It's so effective and simple.

You have no idea how much power you possess until you meet Jay and the amazing support he offers, its life changing. Thanks so much Jay and PFP!"
A.M., New Zealand


"Im so grateful to you jay as the last few days you have kept me sane and got me through this heartbreaking time. Thank you for your support. You will never know just how much you helped me. "
Carol K, UK


"I used to think that porn was something I couldn't get over, but I was wrong. Once I started using Porn Free Power, I found it easy to jump start my recovery process. Each of Jay's resources is filled with effective steps that helped me break the addictive cycle.

Additionally, his online calls are extremely helpful because they are tailored to my needs. Finally, he has an effective accountability system set up which has helped me get to core of why I used porn in the first place. His accountability system has enabled me to become more transparent with myself and others about my porn use and has motivated me to continue my recovery journey.

I wouldn't be here without Jay's guidance in the process. Thanks for everything you've done with PFP!"
Sam-Oakland, California


"Thankyou Jay.

I just want to say that i am absolutely blown away that you would take some of your precious time to help and support a complete stranger.

You are an amazing person doing an amazing job!

I have felt empowered by your insight. I love all your advice – it has truly strengthened me in my resolve. I wouldnt be coping otherwise.

Again i appreciate your support from the bottom of my heart……Its reassuring because you have been here and you know. Im truly indebted to you!

Thankyou for helping me not to give up.

Absolute greatful fan!”
SP, Australia


"Hi jay.

I just wanna say how its going with me and its really going great took your advice and it felt great. to be honest the support you gave me helped me I feel so free and awesome since porn is out of my life now that I have a vision and a future.

Jay it really means alot that you took the time to write to me. You could have done something else but you chose to help me and I appreciate it.

Jay I open my heart to you and I wanna say that it really means alot that there is someone who I could talk to who doesnt judge or reject me but helps me and walks with me for who im gona be in the future.

In the past I never cared about myself. I always though the problem was with me and that I am a washout but through you I start believing im myself. You helped me see that you can choose to stand back up.

Thank you for understanding my circumstances you made me feel that im not alone what im going through.

If I did not find someone like you to helped me I would never have the courage to stand up. I can say today I learned alot by going through that and now I can say no.

Today its all new looking after myself and my lifestyle. Im still young and my whole life is still in front of me.

Im almost 21 and im a new man and just wanted to say thanks for all the messages you wrote to me when I faced that but its all thanks to you i have left it for good.

Thanks for all your emails and the way you inspire me. Each of us has a calling and you definitely have yours. If I look to you jay I see someone who not only understands but who have a wonderful heart. I believe that you can also help millions more.

So I can say thank you again jay that there was someone like you who are standing by my side and who was willing to help me. Thanks for the part you played in my life."
Peter F, Free State, SA
Compiled with permission from various emails


"Life without porn is AWESOME. This is the 7th week without porn. I have now possessed power over porn, even if temptations come it's easy for me to say NO to porn. As time progresses, porn has become more and more powerless to manipulate me and it is the least of my worries now since I know that I will never allow it to rule my life.

I have tasted life without porn for that reason I wouldn't want to go back to porn, simply because my life is now progressive without porn. To taste life without porn, I did all your techniques of defeating porn and it worked perfectly. I'm truly thankful for that.

Jay I thank you for being there for me, it's very motivating to see how much you care about us, I will always honour your for this. And I will continue using your techniques in my journey of recovery, they are awesome. Jay, you're the best!!!"
Siphiwe, Nquthu


"I would definitely recommend this course, it has helped me to turn my life around from almost losing everything that I loved to having my family and my respect back. When I started I never thought I would brake this cycle but with jays help I did it. He is a great guy and he cares about everyone that is on his course, and always there to have a chat if you need some extra guidance and advice."
Dan S, UK


"I have not watched porn for almost 2 months now since using the Porn Free Power strategy.This is a huge achievement for me. I have also received unbelievable support from Jay.
I was desperate when I started this, now every day I feel stronger and in control.
THANK YOU Jay"
TP, Cape Town


"I've never felt so much freedom over this addiction. Thanks for having my back. It means a lot, bro. With your help, I know I'm going to kick this addiction's ass!! :)"
James C, USA


"Porn free power has really supported my recovery . My life is starting to grow yahoo!"
Gray K, England