There’s an old quote by Ken Blanchard that you may have heard before:
“There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.”
On the surface, this might sound like just another motivational truism. But let’s not dismiss it too quickly here.
This concept may just hold the key to your lifelong success with quitting porn.
You need commitment for lasting success
See, it’s possible to enjoy short-term wins in some things, even if you’re not fully committed.
But with anything you find challenging (like quitting porn, for example), you won’t experience consistent, long-term success unless you’re absolutely committed.
Trust me on this. I’ve spoken personally with thousands of people with porn addiction (from all walks of life and all parts of the world) over more than 6 years, and I’ve seen clear patterns.
A lot of people spend years just “interested” in quitting porn and never achieve lasting results.
But then, once they get totally committed and start doing what it takes, they break free completely within a matter of months, and they never look back again afterwards.
It’s that much of a game-changer.
The $10million question
So here’s the question you need to answer truthfully:
When it comes to smashing porn addiction and dominating life, are you just interested, or are you 100% committed?
Now, you might say “Yeahyeah AJ. I’m committed.”
But are you really?
Do you know what it means to be fully committed and not just interested?
If you’re reading this, you’ve probably been striving to quit porn for a while now. So here are a few practical signs that will give you some answers . . .
1. If you don’t know exactly what you want, you’re just interested
If you don’t have an exciting vision for your porn free life, you don’t have much to commit to.
And even if you do know what you want, if you don’t have strong reasons for making it happen, it’s pretty hard to be committed.
If you’re totally committed, you know exactly what you want and you’re ultra passionate about why you want it. Plus, you also have clear goals and a solid game plan to guide you all the way there.
(If you want clear instructions on how to develop your vision, reasons, goals and plans for quitting porn, all of these things are covered as part of the free porn addiction recovery guide – get it now!)
2. If you’re not willing to do whatever it takes to succeed, you’re just interested
Let’s say you do know exactly what you want. If you won’t take the actions needed to make your vision real no matter what, you’re just interested in achieving it, but definitely not committed.
If you’re truly committed, you’ll consistently invest solid time and energy into making it happen.
You’ll do all the uncomfortable (yet beneficial) things that people who are only interested won’t do.
You’ll use all these resources and put every strategy into practice so you can storm toward success as quickly as possible.
You’ll make time when you seem to have none. You’ll give up conveniences and things that seem easier or more enjoyable so you can win the grand prize: an extraordinary, porn free life.
Want a practical example?
Imagine your smart phone was making it way too easy to access porn and relapse. Would you be willing to give it up and use an old school Nokia for a few months while you build momentum?
If you’re just interested, you wouldn’t. If you’re totally committed, you would.
Your level of commitment is clearly shown by far you’re willing to take things to succeed.
3. If your actions aren’t totally decisive, you’re just interested
A totally decisive action is one that drives you forward because it leaves no option to step backward.
Like destroying every bit of porn you have and making it as hard as possible to access more porn in future.
Like making a sincere promise to someone special that you’ll never use porn ever again . . . and that you’ll tell them immediately if you ever do.
If you’re not willing to step up and be that decisive, why? When you’re committed, you burn your bridges and march forward with intensity.
(Note: If you want instructions on how to get the most out of the 2 actions above, make sure you get your free porn addiction recovery guide).
4. If you spend all your time learning at the expense of acting, you’re just interested
Learning is usually comfortable. Taking action can be uncomfortable.
People who are interested in making a change, but not truly committed to it, often justify their inaction by saying they need to learn more first.
In reality, this is just a cheap excuse for the interested person.
If you’re committed to your vision, you know that learning can definitely help you achieve it faster. But you also know that to be effective, the learning must be applied.
It must always be balanced with action.
Learn, then apply. Repeat.
If there are things you already know you need to do, but still don’t do them, you’re just interested . . . and it’s costing you the freedom, emotions, relationships and life you truly want.
5. If the things you say are weak, you’re just interested
Let me give you some examples that I come across a lot. People tell me they’ll “try” to take a certain action or they’re “hoping” they’ll be able to eventually quit porn.
Language like that is weak and flaky. It shows they’re interested in overcoming porn addiction, but they don’t genuinely believe they can.
Wording things noncommittally also makes them more comfortable with giving up if things get too hard or they feel like they’re failing.
But when you truly commit to overcoming porn addiction, you’ll do whatever it takes to succeed.
If you happen to fall down, you’ll get back up and keep going strong again every time.
And when that’s your approach, you can’t fail over the long-term.
A rock-solid commitment makes you feel powerful and literally starts to transform your beliefs about what you can achieve. And your language begins to reflect it.
So if you catch yourself using hesitant terms like “I’ll try” or “I hope” or “maybe I” or “I might” or similar, that’s a big clue. Commit for real and start speaking with certainty!
6. If you’re making any excuses, you’re just interested
Excuses. Justifications. Stories. Explanations. Softeners. Whatever.
About why you didn’t or won’t take an important action . . .
About why you relapsed . . .
About why you’ve stopped moving forward in your journey . . .
About why using porn isn’t really that bad anyway . . .
It’s time to cut the bullshit and make a true commitment.
As my man Ken Blanchard says: when you’re committed, you accept no excuses, only results.
And speaking of results . . .
7. If you’re not seeing steady progress toward the results you want, you’re just interested
Different people have different amounts of work to do. So it’s not necessarily about how soon you get there.
It’s more about consistently progressing in the right direction over the long term.
You decided months (or even years) ago that you need to quit porn, and you now have access to resources to help you.
So if you’re using porn just as much now as before (or even more), you’re really just interested.
Likewise, if you are moving towards the results you want, but your progress is inconsistent or much slower than you’re capable of, that’s another sign of . . . you know what.
Once you make a genuine commitment, your progress begins to reflect it. Maybe not instantly, but definitely over the weeks and months that follow as you keep doing whatever it takes.
Time for your reality check
So . . . did anything above resonate with you?
I know this article is all up in your face, but that’s because I want to jolt you with how important your absolute commitment is.
If you’ve been using porn heavily, giving it up will have a huge positive impact on every part of your life.
So it’s massively important for you to make overcoming porn addiction a priority, commit to it 100%, and then behave accordingly.
Give yourself this honest reality check, and then do what you need to do.
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